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The Eternal, Infernal Orgasm

The Eternal, Infernal Orgasm

Okay, let’s get right to it, folks. Let’s say the word out loud. Orgasm. Say it louder. ORGASM! It is the ultimate pinnacle of achievement in an sexual activity. The result of foreplay. Middle play. And every other kind of play. Some are small, like little shivers. Others are so grand they’re what the French call La Petite Mort – the little death. To quote an article I read, “Orgasm is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region that produce intensely pleasurable sensations followed by rapid relaxation. Orgasm is also in part a psychological experience of pleasure and abandon, when the mind is focused solely on the personal experience.”
We all write about it. “In the candlelit shadows of the room, with soft music drifting in the air and mingling with the scene of vanilla and jasmine, she gave herself over to the completely sensual feeling of his hands playing tune on her bodies erotic zones.” Well, okay. A little flowery but you get the point.”
And of course there’s always the ongoing argument—Did you have an orgasm? What if you didn’t? What if…..? Well, you get the picture.
So I’m surfing the ‘Net, looking for articles and orgasm, and you cannot believe what I found. Trust a man to come up with this idea.
Read on:
“For women, it seems, sex is a big turn-off, reveals a brain scanning study. It shows that many areas of the brain switch off during the female orgasm - including those involved with emotion.
“At the moment of orgasm, women do not have any emotional feelings,” says Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in the Netherlands. His team recruited 13 healthy heterosexual women and their partners. The women were asked to lie with their heads in a PET scanner while the team compared their brain activity in four states: simply resting, faking an orgasm, having their clitoris stimulated by their partner’s fingers, and clitoral stimulation to the point of orgasm.”
Well. Can you think of anything more romantic and stimulating than lying naked on a cold table, with your head in a machine, trying to bring yourself—or have someone else—bring you to orgasm?
“In one sense,” he continues, “the findings appear to confirm what is already known, that women cannot enjoy sex unless they are relaxed and free from worries and distractions.”
Did we need some scientist to tell us that?
The more I read, the angrier I became. Here we are, writing beautiful erotic love stories, where the sex is tantalizing, titillating and seductive, and some man is trying to reduce it to a clinical lab activity? And we’re the ones who keep taking the heat?
So tell me what you think? Should we allow ourselves to be used as lab rates for experiments in what should be a totally emotional experience? Leave me your comments.

6 comments:

Ironeyes said...

Lab rats NO. That kind of research if funded by governmental funds ranks right up there with the sex life of a fly. We know how it feels, we like it or there wouldn't be so much written about it. It seems as though that particular person is trying to make headlines due to an inferiority complex. Won't go into that. Isn't it enough that orgasm is pleasurable and leave it at that?

Ray said...

As a man I have to say WHAT. Research says that our thoughts are just electrochemical reactions. Thank God for those reactions or the scientists wouldn't be able to come to such ridiculous conclusions.
You don't suppose the research was conducted by the GEICO Gecko?

if it feels good who cares the cause.

Ray G

Lisabet Sarai said...

When I read about that sort of research, I just have to laugh. What kind of agenda did those scientists have?

However, I also think that there's too much emphasis on orgasms, in the real world and perhaps even in erotic romance. The sensations and emotions associated with making love are far too rich and varied to be reduced to mere mechanisms aimed at some "achievement". This view of orgasm merely induces anxiety on everyone's part.

Judith Rochelle said...

Great comments, everyone. Amnd Lisabet, I so agree with you. There's a lot more than a mechanical action that goes into an orgasm, The buildup, the sensations, the connection with the other person-you don't get that in a lab.

Herbert Grosshans said...

I agree, there is nothing romantic about lying on a cold board and trying to have an orgasm. No wonder the women's emotional side shuts off. Sex is not just about achieving an orgasm. It is about two people sharing an intimate moment and trying to give each other pleasure. It is about Love. The orgasm is a bonus.You know when you experience an orgasm.Who really cares about a scientific explanation and about the mechanism of it.

Sam said...

The science may explain the how, but not the why. And it doesn't sound very erotic to me. I wonder how many women found that experience enjoyable?