I finally settled on something my friend Gwen and I have been talking a lot about recently. Our attitudes, and how like attracts like. For example, if you are negative and expect negative things, you will, of course, attract negative things.
Have you ever had to do something—a meeting for work, a family gathering, whatever—that you just dreaded? You’re convinced that it is going to be horrible. You’ll be bored, people will annoy you, the time will just drag on and on and on. *raises hand* It’s happened a time or two for me. ;-) And surprise, surprise, my expectations are met. I was bored, people did annoy me, and the time passed so slowing, I thought the clocks were broken.
Well, one day Gwen and I were talking, and she mentioned a book she was reading about attitudes and like attracting like. It sounded intriguing, and as she read the kept sharing more and more as she read (and it’s an ongoing conversation—she’s not done with the book yet!)
The basic gist of it is, attitude is everything. If you expect bad things, that’s what you’ll get. However, the opposite is true. Expect good things, be positive, and watch what happens. So we started a little experiment between us. No more negativity. And believe you me, we call each other on it.
An example—the other night we were on IM and I was dreading going to bed because I hadn’t been sleeping well lately. I wasn’t looking forward to another night of tossing and turning, poor sleep, and having to drag my tired butt out of bed early with the kids. Which of course doesn’t make a happy mama. Gwen totally called me out, said no negativity. I stopped myself, and thought I’m going to sleep well tonight. My body needs to rest. I’m going to lie down, and wake up refreshed and ready to face the day.
When I lay down later, I kept repeating that in my head, focusing on a good night’s sleep and not letting negative thoughts invade. And guess what? I did sleep well that night. I woke up to the alarm and felt rested. It wasn’t a chore to get up.
I’ve written more and been more productive since “banning” negativity. If I only write 1,000 words that day, even when I’d hoped for more, I don’t beat myself up about it. I think, hey, any day that I got some words in is a good day. I’ve been more patient with my kids. It’s amazing what one change can do in your life.
Now, I’m not pretending that my life is all sunshine and rainbows since trying this positivity thing. I still lose my temper, I still have bad moments and get down on myself. However, I’ve found that I don’t dwell on these things as long. I don’t beat myself up for being a bad mom, wife, daughter,
What about you? Do you believe in like attracting like? In the power of the mind? That expecting good things will attract good things to you? Something to think about.
P.S. The name of the book Gwen is reading, in case you’re wondering is The Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks. I need to order my own copy, that’s for sure.
“Real Women, Irresistible Men, Endless Possibilites.”