When I first sent my novel to the RNA for critique, I was asked to define which genre it fell into. At the time I was unsure if it could be classed as erotic romance, so I asked and - among other things - was told that erotica required the inclusion of "at least two of the three Cs."
Well, I'm pretty sure I understood which three, and I knew at least two of them were included. However, after reading a little more erotic fiction, I did start to wonder if my linguistic preferences marked me out in some way. I had no issue with one C, but would only accept one spelling of the second, and refused to use the third except when being thrown around as an insult by my foul-mouthed college footballer.
That said, it was only in my own writing that I objected. I have no issues, personal or otherwise, with anyone else's usage. I just found that typing them myself made me go "Ick." (If I'm honest, there aren't many words for female genitalia that I like. I'm happy to be explicit about men, but with women I tend to stick to "lips" or "centre" and have done.)
And then I found myself wondering about other objections I might have. These days, no matter how unlikely or unpleasant, there's a sexual term for every possible act and, well, some of them I'm just not prepared to write about. And I consider myself pretty damn broad-minded, much more so than the average person (although I recognise that, as erotic romance writers, we aren't really average people).
Take the term "blumpkin".
If you didn't already know what that was, you're much the same as me, since I had to look it up on Urban Dictionary when I first heard it. Frankly, I'm rather disturbed that it happens often enough that someone needed to coin a name for it. I'm unshockable, but I have my limits.
So, even if it wasn't again TEB's rules (and I think it is), nobody will be giving or receiving blumpkins in my writing.
Neither will anyone be "rainbow kissing", a beautiful term that overprettifies an act I find myself shrinking from.
Am I alone in this? Does anyone else have particular words or expressions they just won't use?