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11.7.11

Why Kink?

I was talking with an author friend the other day and this friend writes sweet romance. There's nothing wrong with sweet. I like a good sweet romance here and there. Her work is cute, but it's tame. Your Gramma could read it without being embarrassed or saying, "Oh! My!" (My Gramma could care less. She's proud of what I write, but still.)

But we were talking, my friend and I, and she said to me, "Why do you write kink?"

I shrugged. "I like it?" I wasn't sure where she was going with this. "Why?"

"Do people actually read that stuff?"

"I do."

"Why?"

I won't say I was flummoxed. I've read enough erotic books that most of it doesn't faze me. I like my kink. But to explain why others might? Hmm. So I answered from my perspective.

"I like to read about people who express themselves sexually in a manner that's built from love and mutual admiration." Ok, that sounds so...clinical. I like to read about people having a good time nekkid--as long as it's all consensual.

This time, she was flummoxed. "But it's that...stuff."

"I write what the characters want to do. If they push the boundaries, then so be it. There's nothing wrong with a little slap and tickle, some fun domination, a few toys for flavor, and restraint."

Let's put it this way. Her jaw dropped, she turned a lovely shade of crimson, and she left the table. I shrugged. I was honest. Wasn't that what she wanted?

So I ask you, what's your kink? What turns you on in a story? What's the limit? Anything you'd absolutely not read?

I'm waiting.

Here's a taste of my current release, What Might Have Been.
A second chance has never been this sweet or sexy.

Macy Shibley left Mason, Ohio, to figure out who she was and what she wanted. But after more than a few disastrous relationships, she refuses to let anyone tie her down. She’ll control the tying, thank you very much. No man has ever managed to chip away the walls around her heart...except for one man.

Tanner Connolly has never forgotten his high school crush. The sweet blonde with the vibrant eyes fills his dreams and fantasies. He’d had a shot in school to make her more than a friend, but blew it for the sake of appearances. Now he’d like to know what might have been and use it to create a future. But he’ll have to let her go to prove he wants more than one night...

Reader Advisory: This book contains steamy sex against a door, the creative use of sex toys, some harmless domination, and a little anal play for good measure.

3 comments:

Lisabet Sarai said...

Greetings, Wendi,

Personally, I like my D/s to be more than "a bit of fun". What turns me on about kink is the trust required, the connection between the Dom and sub. It's serious, even when you're laughing. Also arousing is admitting to yourself that you want more than just vanilla - that pain or bondage might actually turn you on, taboo as that might be.

I do think, though, that everyone's answers to these questions will be different.

Amy Valenti said...

Oh, I have so many kinks I don't even know where to start! Bondage, floggers, canes, wax, hair-pulling... and that's just for starters.

Whether it's a fun casual kinky encounter or a serious D/s connection, there's always something to love. There are places I personally wouldn't go - needles, for example - but I'll try most things once, assuming it's not one of the messy kinks.

Wendi Zwaduk said...

I like fun in minem but the trust is the thing. I'm not big on pain...in some respects, I'm a wuss, but the trust is paramount. I trust my DH to do what will push, without really causing harm. That works for me. My friend is still reelling. Oh well. :-)