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3.9.11

Erotica v's Porn part 2


Now I know I touched on this the last time I was here but let me just say I’m really frustrated by the constant comparison between the two. There maybe a fine line between Erotica and porn but the fact still remains there still remains a line which separates these two genres.

During this last month I also read an article—I got so mad I can’t even remember where but I imagine some of you will remember—about romance (and seeing as erotica, in my opinion, is part of the romance genre) that was destroying women’s love lives by giving them a false sense of love and what relationships can be. In my way of reading this article without going into detail it expressed the romance genre were giving women false expectations. They slandered another publisher which is well known and loved for their content of love and romance

Not only was the author in me insulted but very much the woman. Yes, Sam Crescent is in deed a woman lol.

Since I’ve embarked on my erotic romance and erotica journey, I have grown as a writer and as a woman. Reading erotica and writing it has helped me to accept who I am as a person and as a woman and to embrace the good side that I once thought was dirty.

My sister is a great believer in being yourself and saying things the way she sees them. She also reads erotica and erotic romance and is not ashamed of getting a book out in public and read, explicit front cover as well.

Can I just say, is it wrong for the romance books to promote great fantastic sex, with relationships that can work?

Would you really want to read a book where the man is lousy in bed and the relationship is nothing more than an argument from one day to the next?

We live our life with stuff like this taking place. I believe romance, erotic and erotica allow a woman to realise they can take charge of their own love lives and have a satisfied sex life as well as a fully committed relationship.

At the end of the day, this is just my opinion and as a fellow author and woman I feel I have a right to express my thoughts.

Erotic romance helped me, not hindered and if my stories only help one other woman or a couple to try something a little more risque but in the end brings them closer, then I am happy.

Sorry about the rant. It just got to me. Thanks for listening. If you are still interested in Sam Crescent, she can be found wondering around here,

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Have a wonderful September and see you next month. 

Love Sam x

7 comments:

Delilah Hunt said...

Great article, Sam. I agree with you 100%. Romance has always been a target and the sad thing is most of the bashers have never read one to even be able to draw conclusions and comparisons.

Vampirique Dezire said...

Excellent post Sam, I remember that post you were referring to and it was most utterly insulting to writers and women alike.

Even though I work for an Erotic Publisher and write and read all forms of Erotica, which I love and adore. It was my love of reading romance that fueled my young girl fantasies when I was younger. Barbara Cartland, the Grande Dame of Pink being the main culprit. She taught me through her books and words what sensuality can be like with the man of your dreams.
So thank you Romance Writers everywhere, you gave me insight into what romance and love can be like with the man you love.

Kallypso Masters said...

Rant away. I love writing erotic romance (mine's probably heavier on romance than erotica) and am proud of it. But erotic and erotica have a very negative connotation. I find that people are more open-minded if I say I write kinky romance novels. (And, with BDSM, that's certainly a kink!) I probably could write my stories as vanilla romances, but I love exploring how the BDSM lifestyle/dynamics work in the relationship. How is BDSM used to deal with PTSD? How does an independent career woman surrender to a Dom. (Okay, anyone in the lifestyle knows--but I attract a lot of readers who don't usually read BDSM novels, so I'd like to educate a little.)

Most of all, I want to show a more realistic look at how BDSM can be incorporated into a relationship and show how the Dom/sub relationship develops over time. I don't write perfect Doms, but like to have them grow into their Dom roles, perhaps even with a mentor. Even Master Adam, that mentor, is going to be stretched to learn new things in the BDSM lifestyle in order to meet the needs of the woman who loves him.

I first read romances as a teenager, when I'd never seen anything that even hinted that happily ever after existed. I credit the novels with helping ME to find my prince, whom I married 28 years ago. (No, it's not like a romance novel every day--but it's got lots of the elements of one over the course of time!)

But there will always be people who think it's porn. And, you know, that's their problem, not mine. I am developing a target audience who loves what I write and that's all that matters to me!

Alexandra O'Hurley said...

I think I read the same article as you and it twisted my panties too. Yes, our work contains some of the graphic situations as porn, but nothing outside what normal adults enjoy within a happy and healthy relationship.

If reading romance novels has lifted my expectations, then so be it. But I will not be with a man who isn't doting, loving, and great in bed. And what's wrong with that?

Naughty Nights Press (NNP); Mistress Journals said...

I too remember that article and although I found it insulting and degrading to women & authors alike, I also felt sorry for the woman who wrote it.
As a highly sensual and sexual woman myself I've found many times I actually find more reality in the books I read then one may think. I live a lifestyle that far outweighs the erotic romance books in what could be considered porn if her comments were to be believed. My life is kinkier then almost every erotic romance I've read to date in fact.
In my case, the books have actually enabled me to seek a side of myself I missed out on for the majority of my adult life - the loving side. So how could it be so bad and so wrong if what I read helps me realize that I am worth more then I previously thought? Is it wrong for me to believe I CAN find real happiness with a partner who does get me? My books taught me that and I'm a much better person for it so no, ain't nothing wrong with erotic romance in my opinion if it's aiding in reality in a positive manner in my opinion.

Sam, tell me who has upset you. I'll take my whip to them and show them what reality is all about and let's see if they change their tune. Grrrrr

Kellie Kamryn said...

good rant!

Liz said...

well said sister! Liz