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28.8.12

Dry Orgasms






With all the excitement and myths surrounding the female orgasm, the male orgasm is usually taken for granted. It's not that hard to make happen, (if circumstances are right) or to see/taste the evidence when it does. As an erotic author male pleasure is something I spend a lot of time writing about - the build up, the act, the final release and the post-coital slumber.

Let's just define the differences between orgasm  and ejaculation before we go on - An orgasm is the peak in sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, characterized by a release in sexual tension, often immense pleasure, and muscle contractions in the genital region. Whereas, ejaculation is the release of semen from the penis (or just inside the vagina - read my post on female ejaculation here)

Some of you have probably heard of the sexual phenomena for men called dry orgasm, which allows a man to have an orgasm without ejaculating.  I've just touched on this while working on my latest novel and was curious to find out more. Here goes... "A dry orgasm," writes Kate Hakala, "can mean multiple orgasms for men. After a man ejaculates, there is a refractory period - a recovery stage of the sexual response cycle - in which he cannot ejaculate again and most likely will want a snooze. He may be able to get an erection, but there is a bit of a waiting period that's different for all men, sometimes minutes and sometimes a day, before he can actually produce semen again."

But if he's not using up semen that is where it gets interesting...

Because while ejaculation causes the need for a refractory period, orgasm does not,  which means...hurrah!..the refractory/rest period is now defunct. Multiple orgasms for the guys too! 





It seems a dry orgasm, for men, can happen intentionally or not so intentionally. If intentional a well trained pubococcygeal muscle can lead to orgasm without ejaculation by voluntarily contracting it. Much like the Kegal exercises women do to strengthen their perineal core, guys can do exactly the same with their pelvis muscles to achieve the same results. Not only will we they be less likely to pee their pants, but doctors say it helps with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and orgasming without ejaculating.

I can't personally testify for this, but apparently if men flex this pubococcygeal muscle right before they feel they are about to ejaculate, they can sometimes have an orgasm without coming. (If they haven't come, they can go onto have another orgasm.) The medical term used to describe the point of no return, in which a guy is hitting that wall of sexual pleasure and he will/must ejaculate is called "ejaculatory inevitability". But if a man can continually bring himself almost to the point of no return, and then back away, he can experience the blissful muscle contractions associated with orgasm up until he finally does decide to  ejaculate. And when he does reach orgasm, it could be even more incredible than usual. The effect of this is akin to the multiple orgasms experienced by some women and wow, isn't this great that men can have the same fun!

Are there any drawbacks? Mmm, unfortunately there is, retrograde ejaculation. That’s when semen flows backwards into the bladder through the urethra instead of coming out the normal exit. His pee may be a little cloudy, which isn't a problem but it could mask more serious diseases like diabetes or multiple sclerosis. Just something to be aware of.

So with my new found knowledge of dry orgasms, and the fun my heroes could have with orgasming over and over before ejaculating I'm off to continue writing. Thanks for stopping by and feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments box. I'll be hanging around all day :-)

Lily x





9 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think what you may be referring to is something called "edging," during which guys bring themselves close to ejaculation--but then don't. As you mentioned, this can result in a much stronger, more prolonged ejaculation when it does happen, but edging doesn't involve multiple orgasms. Dry orgasming, in my experience is VERY rare, and it's not necessarily something you can learn to do--at least as far as I've heard. Edging is something any guy can do--and it's fun, too! Even so, a group of males all capable of dry orgasming sounds like an interesting premise for a book!

Anonymous said...

Dry orgasms are definitely possible. Men just need to open their mind enough to fdisassociate orgasm with ejaculation. It's not easy because we've alwyas assumed and been taught and orgasm IS ejaculation. Once you get into your head you don't need to ejaculate at all in order to experience mind blowing orgasms, dry orgasms are easy, at least they are for me.

BTW, when I dry orgasm, I don't stop the ejaculation. I actually orgasm without even producing ejaculate. I can feel everything pumping like if I was about to ejaculate but I don't actually feel the fluid coming along the pipe.

Orgasms without ejaculation are an amazing discovery! I find that I experience orgasms very much like my wife does now. I have one and before it's even over, I feel another one coming along. Sometimes I may have three or four in a row. And, since I didn't ejaculate, I can keep going to continue to have more orgasm within a few minutes.

Every man should learn to do this and every woman should learn that men are capable of it.

Anonymous said...

I learned how to have dry orgasms when I was 44. I get more far more pleasure and satisfaction with dry orgasms than with wet ones. It's one of those things you have to experience for yourself before you can believe it. I wrote a simple picture book for beginners, it's only $10 (or $5 for the ebook)from amazon. It's called Love Satisfies by Keepitup Johnson

Anonymous said...

No, edging is a totally different phenomenon! Dry orgasms aren't actually rare at all! In fact, if you apply pressure at a certain area, you can redirect seman (although not what this author is referring to) into the bladder.

Anonymous said...

I have been edging from time to time for the past few months. I've been edging today for the past 4 and a half hours. Roughly 2 hours ago, I experienced a dry orgasm followed by another and then another and so on. I think I've had about a dozen orgasms since then. They are slightly different than wet orgasms in that they last much longer...a couple of seconds versus a minute or so. It's like being at the peak of a wet orgasm and staying there for a minute. AWESOME!!! The best part is that I only need to wait 10 seconds or so and do it again and again. This will not replace the wet orgasms I have with my wife while having sex but now that our frequency is once every other week or so it's an awesome substitution.

Anonymous said...

Who knows what side effects this will have on the long run..

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mgray1966 said...

Hi
I have perfected my own technique of using only my brain to achieve whole body multiple orgasms without touching genitals i gave had up to 5 dry orgasms lasring up to 5 minutes each

Stephen Byrd said...

No please do not separate your own body functions from reality. This will only cause urinary infections! I believe in mgray1966. This is a wonderful way of us to express the penis without pushing it to physical limits.. The human penis is capible of having "natural" organs with out being touched or stimulated.But sometimes the brain can help bring it on. Think on it hard but don't touch it. You will feel the best "natural" orgasam that you had since childhood.

STR, MD
Key West, Fl