When a book is labelled an erotic romance, I think most readers understand that the sex is going to be graphic and there will probably be a lot of it. Not to say that there shouldn't be a plot and lots of sexual tension, but the sex IS very important in an erotic romance. If there wasn't a lot of it, it would be an ordinary romance whose trysts are often as detailed as mine but less frequent.
Yet, I still get comments saying there is too much sex in my stories. I sigh with frustration. I don’t put sex in to pad the thing out. I put sex in at appropriate times. My latest MM doesn't even have the main pair together sexually for several chapters, yet I still have too much sex – apparently. I've had some readers count the times it happens and the ways it happens. One suggested I had a list and ticked off what I've used – him on top, her on top etc. Er – no, I've never done that! And most amazing to me is that I have a lot less sex in my stories than a lot of erotic romance writers whose novels are less plot orientated and more sexual exploit driven.
I wonder if that’s my problem. That my stories read more like sexed up non-erotic romances. If that even makes sense. So readers get more plot and character details than they expect and so think my stories are too sexy. I don’t know and I want to pull my hair out.
I think the only conclusion I can draw is that old chestnut – you can’t please everyone. No one can please everyone. Believe me, I'm the pickiest of readers!