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Men, Sex and Toys

Gather around, everyone.

We're going to talk about sex toys.

I have gotten a lot of comments about one of my more recent works, A Week in the Snow. The majority of those comments seem to focus on one particular thing: the sex toy scene.

There are actually a few scenes in the book in which sex toys take center stage, but there is one in particular that has drawn comments. It's the scene where Richard gets a little...well, let's just say he gets a little education from his sweet Rebecca.

She pulled the vibrator out of the box and turned it on. Sitting back on the foot of the bed, she started with his feet. The vibrator made him jerk and squirm, but he did an admirable job of holding still. She ran it up his legs, over his hips, down the inside of his thighs. She barely touched his dick with it before she went up to his chest and played with his nipples until they were as hard as hers. Then she turned it off and held it above him, pressed the tip to his lips, and demanded: “Suck.”

To her surprise, Richard immediately opened his mouth and sucked in the tip of the vibrator. She thrust it gently in and out. “Have you ever sucked on a dick?” she asked.

He shook his head. No.

“Have you ever wanted to?”

The shake of his head was slower this time, but the answer was the same.

“Have you ever had a threesome?”

He shook his head again.

“Ever wanted one?”

His nod was vigorous and made her smile. She was enjoying her interrogation.

“Have you ever fucked a woman in the ass?”


“Has a woman ever fucked you in the ass?”


“Have you ever wanted a woman to fuck you in the ass?”

He hesitated, and Rebecca smiled.

“What if I said I wanted to fuck you with this?” she asked.

Richard slowly nodded.

“You would let me fuck your ass?”

He nodded again. She took the vibrator away.


“Because you can do whatever you want to do to me.”

“Would you like it?”

“I don’t know.”

“Does it scare you?”


“Does it turn you on?”

He swallowed hard. “Yes.”

She sat beside him for a moment, studying his face, letting him wonder what was coming next. She knew the images in his mind would drive him crazier than her words would, and she gave him ample time to fuck with his own head. She pressed the vibrator to the centre of his chest and turned it on. He jerked like he had touched electrical current.

Rebecca smiled as she slid the vibrator down his body. When she reached his dick she carefully let the tip of the vibrator brush over the sensitive skin, and was rewarded with his loud groan. She reached into the toy box and found a bottle of lube. She didn’t bother to hide the squirting sounds as she covered the tip of the vibrator with the liquid.

“Spread your legs.”

I'm willing to bet you can guess what happens next!

The comments I have been getting about this scene are surprising. Several readers have said that it's unusual for a man to want to use sex toys -- that he has no problem using it on a partner, but he hesitates to use it on himself.

I suppose there could be all sorts of reasons for this, but the question that rattles around in my head is simply "Why? Don't they know what they're missing?"

So in honor of giving your partner a proper education, I challenge you to open up the toy box, pull out your favorite and give it a whirl on him. He might be completely surprised, but sometimes that's best, don't you think? A good surprise and pleasurable change in the usual can open up whole new worlds of fun.

Don't have a favorite? Now's the time to cuddle up next to him in bed with the laptop and point your mouse to your favorite sex toy store. Make sure to get something that can be used on him as well, such as a nice vibrator, a set of nipple clamps, maybe even one of those sexy toys made just for men...and when the goodies arrive, haul him to the bedroom, tie him to the bed and let the games begin.

And then write about it! Whether you put it into a book or a blog or a simple journal that you keep and look at from time to time, put all of that sexiness into words.

And if you want to share it with the rest of us, by all means, let's hear it!


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